The Unspoken Truth written by Rob Olive

Ladies, what I’m about to dive into is touchy but real. Ask any man in any city with any ethnic background and you’ll get the same answer hands down. That is if this man is answering truthfully and not trying to knock you (we’ll say almost anything to knock you please know this) I say this because I’ve had this same discussion with the men at my barber shop. The guys there reach a wide range of demographic white,black,young and old. Wait,wait…. before I move on, Ladies you should know that us men are something else, SOMETHING ELSE I tell you(okay, I admit that this may be the last time but I can admit it) we(men) live by a different code than you,play by different rules than you I don’t know why that is (it just is)
With that being said Let Us Move On…………
When we’re (men) in a relationship with you(ladies) and you already have kids by a previous relationship we’re(men) going to grow to love these kids like are own. Raise and mold them as if they were are own…BUT let the two of us have a child together a product of you a product of me…well ladies we’re going to love THAT child more way more than those other kids..Realistically you (women) are asking us men to do the impossible when it comes to this, you cannot on GODS green earth except a man to love your kids the same way as his own flesh and blood…IMPOSSIBLE…
Don’t believe me: picture this scenario: your child(by the other guy)and y’all child together are standing on a cliff together and they both fall over which one do you think your man will save(yep) he ain’t gonna be able to save both because he’s gonna need all his strength to save one…
Okay I know that scenario was a bit much(never happen)but say y’all split and don’t make it relationship wise do you think were gonna be picking up your kids(no) that bond brakes with those kids when the two of ya’ll brake(c’mon ladies you know this)
Not a man any where that will pick them kids up…now he might start off doing this but this guy is “saving face” not for you but for them kids. Eventually he’ll stop asking for them all and just ask for his own….this subject is touchy I know and it can go deeper(yes deeper) like how we(men) prefer a women who doesn’t have any kids even if we have 2 or 3 by 2 or 3 different women double standards, double standards I know I’m not gonna go into that tho!!(we would be here too long) so just marinate on what I have disclosed……until next time(if there is a next time) Rob Olive

7 comments

  1. Piece of missing information… I met my husband when I was 12yrs old sleeping under a slide… he used to sneak me in his room so I wouldn’t have to sleep in the cold… his family found out and started to look after me… I am 30yrs old now…

  2. Hey there…. I am sure it’s all respectful… I can participate in a respectful debate. My only response is that if u knew that we don’t deal on that level… but ur right, he could turn on my daughter at anytime and break her heart… but his family hasn’t done that to us, so I just don’t believe he will either… but time will tell. I’ll always be here for her either way…

  3. I don’t have children but I understantd what you were writing about. Thanks for the insight and for sharing!

  4. @Kee…..See now there are exceptions to every situation(unlikely tho) Respectively now!! The fact that your still married to this dude after being separated for 3plus years only means two things 1.) You can’t let go or 2.) He can’t let go, which means he’s still going to show the same amount of love to those kids because ya’ll still have something(whatever that something is) going on but let ya’ll part I mean really part Divorce….then watch him….a man will show you his loyalty to his seed like never before….Respectively now 🙂

  5. This is so far from the truth, respectfully. For me, at least, let me correct myself. But maybe it’s because he’s my husband, not my boyfriend… but we’ve been separated for 3+ yrs and never does him nor his family come get one and not the other… but the fact that we met as children over come real circumstances may be a factor as well… but maybe there’s a tiny truth in the cliff tale… lol. Not sure.

  6. Rob, I think there are SO many different dynamics that play into this situation. Honestly, you could even factor women into your post. It’s going to make a difference if you’re a boyfriend versus husband, if you’re a father yourself or you have no kids, etc. This is one that could go a lot of different ways. Thankful for your thoughts!

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